Why is Life Difficult?
“Life is only difficult when you don’t surrender to what is
and let go of what you think should be happening.”
—Nancy Salmeron
Have you ever wondered why your life is so difficult? You ask yourself, “How can this be happening to me?” or “Why me and not him?”
Yes, life may seem difficult and challenging, but if you are willing to reflect you will realize that life is always working in your favor, even when you think it’s working against you. When dealing with the pain of life, we are often left wondering why life wants to break us. Yet life is actually building us. Life is only difficult when you don’t surrender to what is and let go of what you think should be happening. Life can be good in one moment and feel upside down the next. That is what makes life beautiful! As life-the-teacher knocks on my door to show me that events don’t always work out the way I thought they would, I am quickly reminded that these events, which I call bad, are a blessing. I become excited for what these bad events or life challenges are going to show me or where they will take me. I am a firm believer that everything we see as a challenge is going to make our life more beautifully amazing.
A couple of months ago, I was dealing with the loss of some potential business opportunities. I questioned life, wondering why that deal did not happen. Today, I am rejoicing because it was not the right business deal for me. Last year, I wondered why some friendships, which had been in my life for the past twenty years, ended. Today, I am filled with joy because I am not in relationships that bring me down and add stress to my life. I have a new tribe of friends who I can count on, who have my back. Life seems sneaky and confusing sometimes but believe it or not, life is always working in your favor. When you step back to reflect and see what life took away from you, you will see that it was so something better could come along. I believe that if we see life as our teacher and guide, it can take us to places that we never imagined. The trick is to let life show you what it needs to teach you so that you can move forward.
I used to question why bad things happened. Today, I don’t fear or dwell on the negative things that show up. I have learned to quickly open the door when life brings me bad news and surrender to whatever negative event I must endure. I have learned that when I am willing to not fight the bad aspects of life, I grow and move on quicker. My ability to not fight but, instead, to embrace the ugliness of life did not come easily. In the past, I would lock the door and not acknowledge or pay attention when life was bringing me its darkness. I felt if I ignored it, it would go away. Unfortunately, life never works like this. The darkness of life will linger until you look at it and eventually embrace it. We must remember that nothing ever changes or pushes forward until we accept what is happening in the moment and let go of the way we think things should be. Love what is! Love the beauty, the mundane, and the darkness of life that is knocking at your door. You may not want a present that looks ugly wrapped up, but if you are willing to open and look at it, you will soon realize that it transforms into a beautiful gift from life. Today, I want to talk about loving what is and letting go of what you think should be. Let’s talk about the beauty of life, even when it’s ugly and difficult.
Have life goals, but let life adjust your goals. This can result in a new path.
It is your divine right to set goals and dreams for yourself. But be flexible in the pursuit of your dreams and goals. Life knows best if you are willing to let it guide you to what needs to be the next step. You do this by having a plan on how you are going to accomplish your desires but by also being willing to open the door to the darkness of life. When life tells you that your plan has changed, don’t fight it. Just listen, observe, reflect, and be open to the possibility of changes in the direction in which you were going.
Surrender to life quickly, and accept what is.
The reason we suffer more then we need to is because we want to fight change.
“No, I am not going to accept this. This is not what my life was supposed to be!” we tell ourselves and others.
We become toddlers with a temper tantrum. We fight life, thinking that we will beat it, but we can’t. Don’t fight what life is bringing you. Accept it and watch it transform into something beautiful. The faster you let go of what you thought your life should be, the faster you will hear the knock that will bring you the blessing.
Focus on the change and the blessing. Don’t dwell on the past.
The changes life brings are often not easy to accept. For a long time, you thought you knew what life would be like for you, but then life throws you a curve ball. This curveball is intended to teach you something about yourself. For the most part, life changes become a blessing when you see them as blessings and accept them. When you fight change and wish it was like it always was, you will continue to suffer. You suffer because you want something that has no way of ever returning. Why fight change one more time? Accept and embrace it. When you do, things become clear as to why life threw you that curveball. Remove yourself from the idea that only you can apply change to your life. Believe it or not, life may have a better plan for you. Be patient and see what that is.
The biggest lesson I have learned about life in my forty-three years is that life has a way of introducing you to bigger dreams that you originally planned. I also learned to accept and surrender to what is happening in the moment and move forward by not focusing or desiring the past. Life is made moment by moment. Only when you are present, do you get to fully discover where life wants to take you. Remember, life will show you where you need to be, so don’t fear the ugliness in life. Befriend it! Love what is even if it’s not what you had wished for. Don’t desire for anything to be different. Remind yourself that eventually, life will guide you to where you need to be. Tell yourself that where you are in life is where you should be and that only the best is coming. Be grateful for your breath, your loved ones, and the mundane things in your life. Be open to the darkness of life, because it will soon bring you to the light. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessings and much love your way!
Nancy:)