Once our minds are “tattooed,” with negative thinking,
our chances for long- term success diminish.
-John Maxwell
Wonderful things are happening in my life. My family and business is prospering, every day I come closer to my true becoming. Yet, I have been dealing with negative chatter these last couple of days. I have been doubting my existence, my life’s purpose. I have been questioning my self-worth. Questions such as, “Well, who do you think you are to be so great!” “You are not smart enough.” “You can’t do that!” I have been bullied by my own mind. This made me think about why we sabotage our happiness. Why we can’t seem to accept that things can be wonderful and that you are worthy of those wonderful things. Today, I want to talk about that negative chatter that may come to haunt you in some of the best moments of your life and what to do about it.
Why do you feel you are not worthy?
It is my belief that these negative voices bully our mind because we believe we are not worthy of wonderful things. You may think that wonderful things happen to other people, but never to you. You think it’s too good to be true. Also, we are afraid of rejection. When you start rejecting yourself you think you are preparing for it when it comes. Why do we do this? We do this to protect ourselves. Sound silly right? As I reflect on this I realize that I am preparing for something that may never even happen. Why not let go of something you can’t control? You need to be ok with difficult times coming, but don’t worry about them until you have to truly worry about them.
There is only one you and you are perfect!
When we compare ourselves to others we truly damage our self-esteem. When I have these negative thoughts, I go into comparison mode. I look at some of the people that inspire me and tell myself that I could never be like them. The truth is that when we compare ourselves to others we limit our own potential. When I do this, I quickly have to remind myself that there could never be another Nancy Salmeron! Understand that you are unique you are perfect the way you are. What you have to offer to those around you is enough, and they are blessed to have you. That negative chatter will silence when you accept that you are authentic and just perfect!
Kill the negative thoughts with kindness.
We are involved in constant mental chatter. We talk to ourselves all day long and sometimes what we say to ourselves are things we would not say to our worst enemies. These conversations you have with yourself reinforces in your mind who that negative voice thinks you are. You need to be aware of this, because this voice only tells lies! Become your own best friend. Don’t be a bystander! When you hear these negative thoughts kill them with kindness. If you hear, “Well who do you think you are to be so great?” Respond, “My name is______ and I am GREAT thank you very much!” When you hear, “You can’t do that!” respond, “Just watch me!” Then proceed with your greatness.
To unleash your true potential you have to stop all that negative chatter. Know that you are PERFECT the way you are because you were born. Remember there is only one you and we need you! Don’t forget how amazing you are, so please stop sabotaging yourself. Until next Monday, Believeyou are unique, Change, those negative thoughts for positive ones, to Becomeyour authentic self.
NancyJ