“Great things never came from comfort zones.”
In my topic of change I will discuss how change is necessary to unleash the true you. If you stay the same for the sake of comfort zone, what potential stays with you?
In my research of why people resist change I discovered that it was the result of fear. The fear to lose control. We want to make sure we are in control of our lives at every moment and when we lose control we lose ourselves. To know what is going to happen is to feel safe. We may not enjoy surprises, which keep us from changing! It may make you vulnerable. It may make you feel incompetent. Not smart enough. Change may result in more work, work you may not want.
The fear of loss. We have wonderful things that give us joy and if we change, this may be taken away. The fear of upsetting others. We don’t want to make enemies as we move up to bigger and better things. What will our friends say or think? Will we have any friends after this grand change? These are all valid questions that can stop us from changing, but change is necessary! On the positive side, it may challenge your mind, make you go where you have never been before. I can almost guarantee you that you will not regret it. I can also guarantee that you will regret it more if you don’t. So don’t resist change.
How do I deal with change? Badly, but getting better each day! I am dealing with many changes in my life that I will share in future posts, but the most evident one is moving. This was change that I did not need, but it was necessary so that I would fulfill my dream of having a little ranch. A dream that I thought I would do, “someday.” To acquire this dream I am going to have to sell my very beautiful home that I have adored for many years. This is the home where my children have grown up. When I bought this home it was only two years old. I love the community, schools and the parks, yet it is time to move. It is time to get a little uncomfortable with the unknown. The home on this ranch was built over fifty years ago! So you can imagine it is not like my home right now, but it will become my new project. I have been criticized by family and friends on why I would leave my beautiful home to move to a home that requires a lot of work and is much smaller. I simply tell them it is, “the metaphor of life.” Yes, in deed I could continue on the safe, comfortable path the I live, or I can challenge myself to pursue something better. It is not guaranteed that everything will be sunshine and rainbows, but I am willing to risk losing what I am comfortable with to find out. The idea of being fearful of this new chapter suffocates me! Deep in my soul I know that this will be great for my family and I! This morning I challenge you to get out of your comfort zone and believe that a change is necessary, for you to truly BECOME who you are destined to be! I heard somewhere that when it feels scary to jump, it is exactly when you do, otherwise you get stuck.
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