“The pain and struggle you are going
through is part of your life story.”
-Nancy Salmeron
We were going to celebrate his first birthday August 16. He would have been one human year. King was given to my daughter as a gift. He was a white Pekingese/Poodle. I like dogs, but I never thought I would actually love a dog like I loved this one. King was a fun filled, lots of energy fur ball. Since I get to work from home most of the time, we developed an unbreakable bond. He was my shadow. My daughter would get a bit jealous when she saw how excited he got to see me. His tail would wag uncontrollably, he would jump with excitement and got on his back so that I would touch his belly. Sadly, our beloved dog King was hit by a car and died instantly. This was the first time that a living soul that I had interacted with every day for the past year would no longer be with us in human form. This was not the first time that a loved one had passed on. I had grandparents, and extended family members leave this planet. I felt the pain, I was in shock with their loss, but since I had developed a day to day bond with King, his departure brought me to my knees (literally). As for my daughter it shattered her little heart. I missed him following me from room to room. I missed him laying with me when I took a nap. There is a great difference in the yearning of loved ones that you interact with every day, compared to the ones that you rarely see. King, has reminded or prepared me to be ready to understand that the time with your loved ones is precious and you need to value it. I started to wonder what would happen if I lost my husband, who is my best friend, someone that I have lived with day to day for more than a decade. I could not or did not want to imagine what it would be like if I lost one of my kids. I don’t know how I could sustain such pain, but I do know that everything we experience in this world is fleeting. I understand the process of loss. I understand that there are many phases. I also understand that with time things get better. Pain does not go away, but it lessens it becomes more bearable.
Today I want to talk about how pain, defeat and life struggles just as joy and happiness are not everlasting. I also want to give you hope if you are grieving the loss of a loved one or any other type of loss. I want you to remember that your present situation has no effect on your amazing future and that this too shall pass. Here are three things to consider when you are going through some difficult times.
Embrace it.
Many times, and understandably so we want to ignore or reject pain. Yes, there are many phases of pain and you only know what phase you are in. Yet, you have to understand that death or loss is part of living, it’s part of your life story. I always feel that death puts things into perspective for me. Death, reminds me to value life, to treasure my loved ones and to stay present. Believe that you are strong enough to embrace pain and disappointment.
Give it time.
Time, time, time lessens the wound. I understand the power of time, but need to learn to be patient with time. Whenever I am going through some difficult time, professionally, emotionally or economically I always know that within time things will improve and guess what they always do! Be fair to yourself and situation by practicing patience and understanding that time takes care of everything.
Know this too shall pass.
One of my favorite mantras is the “this too shall pass” and this also applies to joy and happiness. Nothing is constant, nothing is forever. Pain needs to be showcased in your life so that you can better value happiness and joy. Also, pain gives you strength and becomes part of your amazing life story. The death of King in my life reminded me once more of being present and grateful for the little things in my life. It got me focused on love. Yes, pain and suffering will disappear and will reappear once more. Meanwhile, what are you doing with the moments that are pain free? Are you living them up or giving them up?
When you are going through dark difficult times don’t forget that the sun will bring light and beautiful times soon enough. Be patient, know that this too shall pass and remember to find joy and gratitude in ordinary days. It is these ordinary days that we will miss someday. Until next Monday, Believe. Change. Become!
Nancy🙂
Remember I am here for you! Connect with me at Nancy@believechangebecome.netif you have any questions on how I can support your through challenging times.