“Sometimes there is nothing to forgive and much to learn.”
-Nancy Salmeron
In life you will be hurt and disappointed by others. Life is about learning lessons, implementing lessons learned and hopefully passing to the level of self-acceptance or self-love. The older I become the more aware I am that these lessons brought to you by life are here to teach you something about yourself, others and the human experience. I also learned that disappointment and heart ache caused by others is never easy. It takes a great deal of perspective to look beyond the hurt and forgive those that have hurt you. It takes courage to not only blame others for your pain but recognize how you may be seeking it for your spiritual expansion. What others do to you they do to themselves, but that is irrelevant to your personal and spiritual development. The purpose of disappointment is to seek within and discover that you are strong and wise enough to learn the lesson. That you are capable of overcoming any pain or disappointment brought to you. The best lessons in life are where you realize that you are responsible for whatever happens in your life. It’s not about blaming him or her for your broken heart, it’s about accepting and surrendering to what is, but also learning from it. As I stumble from disappointment to disappointment I become more grateful for the constant blessings in my life. I understand that friendships become sour, loved ones break your heart, but the result for me has always brought me to a better place spiritually. I can honestly say that every bad event or heart break in my life has taught me something about myself and others. Life set backs have taught me that only hurt individuals hurt others, and that there are a lot of people hurting. These life experiences have personally taught me to be patient with myself and to forgive others. These setbacks or what I like to call “push forwards,” have showed me that it is ok bless, and forgive those that have hurt but that does not mean they need to continue to be in your life. Be grateful that they showed up and taught you something about yourself and the human experience. Today let’s talk about the power of forgiveness, the power of surrender and the power of letting go.
Forgive yourself and others.
When you forgive others for they pain they brought into your life you are truly making peace with yourself. You are giving yourself permission to not be stuck with past pain or disappointment. The act of self-love is involved in forgiving. To forgive does not mean you were ok with what was done to you, it simply means that you love yourself and you are deciding not to hold on to resentment that is harmful to your emotional and spiritual well-being. Sometimes to forgive is to realize that you are grateful for the experience there is nothing that needs to be forgiven, but much to be learned.
There is power in surrender.
To surrender is to trust that all will be well. Yes, disappointment and pain hurt, but trust that eventually you that storm you were under will bring sunshine. When we surrender we are not giving up or loosing the fight. We are simply accepting what is and being open to other possibilities or results. To surrender is to be able to accept and meet life as it is. Is to let the idea go that it could be any different. Here is where you must pay attention to what life is trying to teach you.
In letting go you will implement surrender one more time.
In letting go of pain or the individuals that have hurt you, you are owning your power. The message here is that you have decided to forgive but move on because you understand the lesson. To let go of those that don’t contribute positively and accept that things can’t be different. When you decide to let go of the pain and those that caused disappointment, you have learned that better things are on their way. Letting go is the ability to see that events and people have played the role that you needed them to play so that you could have a better understanding of life. Pay attention to what that pain or person taught you, so you can heal and don’t have to repeat the lesson.
Forgiveness is not something you do for the other person. Forgiveness does not mean you need to include that person in your life. When you forgive you surrender your pain to the world and are better able to let go people that are holding you back. When disappointment and pain show up in our lives we must not dwell on it, we must accept it as if it was something we were seeking in our lives, because we were. The lessons brought by pain and sorrow is priceless, we hate it when we are in it, but love how it changes us, or who we become. Forgive to find peace within you. Surrender and let go the let the universe, God know that all is good, and you are in trust. Until next time, Believe. Change. Become.
Sending many blessing and much love your way!
Nancy😊